Post by shantymichelle on Jan 21, 2011 18:56:55 GMT -6
Well, here's our story, from the beginning!
My DH, Chris, and I met in English class our Jr. year of high school (1997). I was friends with his girlfriend, but we didn't talk until one day he leaned froward (he sat right behind me) and asked if I was her older sister! I laughed and we started chatting and became instant friends... He was funny and wonderful and amazing. I didn't take too long before we were inseparable and on a trip to the coast one weekend, he kissed me and we both knew that this was end of the road! He proposed the next summer and were married one month after we graduated.
The next two years went fast... we worked and started college and the day before our 2nd anniversary, our second son was born... For the most part, we handled everything very well for being young and having so many responsibilities, but when I was about 5 months pg, Chris and I got in a fight and he left... I was completely devastated, not sure what to do with 2 kids by myself, unsure if I would handle everything without him, but he made it very clear that he didn't want to come back... So after 3 months being alone, I decided that I need to move forward with my life. I packed up our stuff and moved back to my home town and filed for divorce. Then, 2 weeks before I delivered our son, he showed put at my door and begged me to take him back. I didn't trust him, so he took his time winning me back... I still loved him more then anything, but he had changed. He wasn't the boy that I fell in love with. He had become mean and angry and bitter towards me...
Slowly, over the next few month, things got much better, but in the mix of everything, he got a vasectomy... he was afraid that if we ended up pg again, the stress of everything would finish us off. I didn't really want him to, but I supported his decision if it would keep our family together.
He work and work at our relationship and himself, and wouldn't let me give up when I wanted to... We went to counseling and started going back to church. Eventually, we fell completely in love again, deeper then we ever were before... and when our kids were 6 and 8 yrs old, I started yearning for another baby together. We were in a good place in our lives, and felt that expanding out family would be amazing, and had always talked about having a reversal if we every had the money and wanted more children...
It took over 2 years from the time we started talking about having another baby to him saying that he 100% wanted to go through with it... We set a few dates and then had to back out for different reasons. Then, finally, we went to a BBQ at our friends house last April, and Chris's friends told him just do it already! HAHA! It took me almost 3 years talk him into it and only one night for his friends to push him over the edge!
So, we made the appointment in April for August 6th with Dr. R... And, here we are, almost 6 months later, still trying for #3! But, either way, if we have another one or not, we are in this together... And, I have my love back, that wonderful boy that I met in 13 years ago in English class...
My DH, Chris, and I met in English class our Jr. year of high school (1997). I was friends with his girlfriend, but we didn't talk until one day he leaned froward (he sat right behind me) and asked if I was her older sister! I laughed and we started chatting and became instant friends... He was funny and wonderful and amazing. I didn't take too long before we were inseparable and on a trip to the coast one weekend, he kissed me and we both knew that this was end of the road! He proposed the next summer and were married one month after we graduated.
The next two years went fast... we worked and started college and the day before our 2nd anniversary, our second son was born... For the most part, we handled everything very well for being young and having so many responsibilities, but when I was about 5 months pg, Chris and I got in a fight and he left... I was completely devastated, not sure what to do with 2 kids by myself, unsure if I would handle everything without him, but he made it very clear that he didn't want to come back... So after 3 months being alone, I decided that I need to move forward with my life. I packed up our stuff and moved back to my home town and filed for divorce. Then, 2 weeks before I delivered our son, he showed put at my door and begged me to take him back. I didn't trust him, so he took his time winning me back... I still loved him more then anything, but he had changed. He wasn't the boy that I fell in love with. He had become mean and angry and bitter towards me...
Slowly, over the next few month, things got much better, but in the mix of everything, he got a vasectomy... he was afraid that if we ended up pg again, the stress of everything would finish us off. I didn't really want him to, but I supported his decision if it would keep our family together.
He work and work at our relationship and himself, and wouldn't let me give up when I wanted to... We went to counseling and started going back to church. Eventually, we fell completely in love again, deeper then we ever were before... and when our kids were 6 and 8 yrs old, I started yearning for another baby together. We were in a good place in our lives, and felt that expanding out family would be amazing, and had always talked about having a reversal if we every had the money and wanted more children...
It took over 2 years from the time we started talking about having another baby to him saying that he 100% wanted to go through with it... We set a few dates and then had to back out for different reasons. Then, finally, we went to a BBQ at our friends house last April, and Chris's friends told him just do it already! HAHA! It took me almost 3 years talk him into it and only one night for his friends to push him over the edge!
So, we made the appointment in April for August 6th with Dr. R... And, here we are, almost 6 months later, still trying for #3! But, either way, if we have another one or not, we are in this together... And, I have my love back, that wonderful boy that I met in 13 years ago in English class...
Stay in touch, it's great to have you here!
