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Post by wiltingflower on Feb 3, 2011 16:16:59 GMT -6
...but it sure is hard sometimes. I was greeted today with three different punches to the gut. An email from a friend overseas who just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, a FB post from someone who I didn't know was pg who announced that her baby is likely about 5lbs now (in utero), and another old friend from back home on FB who announced that his wife just had an ultrasound, and IT'S A GIRL!!!  I wish I could feel more joyful for them, but all I can think about is how easy it seems to be for everyone else in my life but me. sigh. Don't worry, the melancholy will pass. It's just nice to have somewhere to express it where I know people will understand. wf |
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Post by tiffmw10 on Feb 3, 2011 16:35:02 GMT -6
WF - I totally understand where you are coming from. Even though you want to be happy for them, on the inside it's jealousy.
One of my best friends gave birth in September, her 1st baby and post beautiful pictures of him daily on Facebook. Every single day...I'm happy for her and I love him, but she is oozing with love and happiness for her new baby while I long for one.
Another friend of mine, my age, found out in October that she was pregnant. She's 22 weeks along now. When her and her DH were trying, it only took them 5 months natually. Her ticker updates weekly on FB and I have to see it. This is her 2nd.
I love both of them with all my heart and really happy for them, but I wish it were me as well.
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Post by hsmom24 on Feb 3, 2011 17:22:58 GMT -6
I know what you mean. I feel differently for different people, which makes me feel weird. I have one friend who is now 20 weeks along with her 9th (yes ninth) baby. Her and her DH both agreed that they wouldn't use any birth control and would let God decide how many children they have. I love her to pieces, and really, she's probably the person who most influenced my decision to rethink whether we should have had the V to begin with or now. I don't feel an ounce of jealousy toward her at all, I'm so over-the-moon happy for them.
Then I have another friend who is pg with baby #3 (she just pg with #2 just after DH had the VR), and I'm having a harder time with that one. She posts daily complaints on FB that relate to her pregnancy, and it makes it really hard. I'm sure I complained when I was pg too, but now, I don't think I could do that ever again. I would gladly puke everyday, have back pain, waddle, deal with cravings...you name it, I would gladly do it just to be able to carry a baby in my womb. Because this friend complains about it so much, I find myself wanting to just snap at her. I want to tell her to just shut up and be thankful that she can at least BE pregnant. YKWIM???
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Post by shell2011 on Feb 3, 2011 22:38:23 GMT -6
Leslie, I'm beginning to wonder if we share the same friends, lol! I also have a friend that complains daily about being pg on FB and I find myself resisting the temptation to post "I would LOVE to be puking my guts out right now if it meant I was pg with a sticky bean!"
WF - I'm sorry you are having such a rough time today. ((BIG HUGS))
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Post by kews on Feb 4, 2011 10:15:10 GMT -6
I feel for you guys and feel the same way. A part of me is happy when someone says they are pregnant or just had a baby and the other part wants to through the laptop across the room.
I hate all this waiting and don't know how you have done it for so long.
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Post by momto2teenagers on Feb 4, 2011 12:06:37 GMT -6
I feel the same way too. My one cousin just had a baby girl last week. Her brother just called 2 nights ago to tell us he and his gf are having a girl too. I immediately came in the bedroom and told dh that "I" was the one that was supposed to pg and having a girl. I'm happy for them, but come on already, both of those babies were oops babies and I want a planned one. Why does this have to be so hard?
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Post by hsmom24 on Feb 4, 2011 12:23:51 GMT -6
Cindy, I totally get where you're coming from. My one friend who complains about her pregnancy al the time, is pg with an oops baby as well. I know her and her DH are both thrilled about the baby, but a small part of me really just doesn't get why God gives a baby to someone who wasn't even trying, yet withholds that from us when we've been trying and praying for one for years now. I try to keep positive, and trust God, but sometimes it's really hard. I mean, I know He loves me and has a perfect plan for me, but it still hurts very month when AF shows up.  |
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Post by wiltingflower on Feb 5, 2011 18:12:56 GMT -6
Thanks so much everyone, for sharing your stories and feelings. It really is a wonderful thing to know you're not alone in this. I wish NONE of us had to go through it, but since we do, how wonderful that we can at least support each other when we have these bad moments.
wf
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Post by kews on Feb 5, 2011 19:53:27 GMT -6
Do you know what is sad? I am a member of the HG board on BBC and I get mad at those women for moaning and complaining about the morning sickness (which is HORRID with HG) yet at the same time I know that once I am pregnant I will be one of those women if the HG comes and gets that bad.
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Post by shell2011 on Feb 6, 2011 22:28:47 GMT -6
What is HG?
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Post by tiffmw10 on Feb 7, 2011 0:18:07 GMT -6
I was wondering the same thing.
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Post by kews on Feb 7, 2011 7:35:16 GMT -6
sorry- Hyperemesis Gravidarium. extreme morning sickness where you puke non stop all day. With my first I lost 15 lbs in 3 months (and only started at 110 lbs).
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Post by Jennifer on Feb 7, 2011 14:54:12 GMT -6
Same here Kirsten, I was VERY sick with all of my pregnancies! With each one I threw up at least 5x's a day (usually more) for 3 months straight, with each! It was all day sickness to the extreme I lost 15 lbs as well in the first couple of months with a couple of mine.... |
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Post by tiffmw10 on Feb 7, 2011 16:35:43 GMT -6
Jen - you don't have 15 lbs to lose. Your a tiny little thing.
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Post by Jennifer on Feb 7, 2011 19:36:39 GMT -6
Thanks Tiffany, but I do have about 25 to loose, to get back down to where i am happy. My waist is shot after having 5 kids, I'm not sure if i will ever get it as small as it used to be, doubt i will, but I am going to do the best I can!
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